As we think about all the gifts we need to buy during the holidays, it's natural to start thinking about success. When you see the wife on the TV commercial pull into the driveway in a brand new, ribbon-tied Lexus for her adoring and handsome husband, it's hard not to wonder how she managed that! We want all the riches that come with success, and we want to truly live in abundance. Want to know how they do it? Here are some habits successful people have that we might want to adopt.
- They don't let failure define them. Part of the human condition is failure, and successful people are not immune to it. In fact, successful people sometimes have more failures than most people will ever experience. The difference is they don't take rejection or failure personally. They get up, dust themselves off, and keep going. James Dyson went through 5,127 prototypes before he successfully created his famous Dyson vacuum. Mark Cuban was fired from the first company he worked for in Dallas. Successful people turn their failures into turning points in their life; they let it light a fire in them to succeed rather than wallowing in the humilation.
- They have a mentor. Successful people weren't always at the top of their game. They often started at the bottom and worked their way up, and along the way they found someone who was in the position they coveted and sought guidance. Learning from someone who has already reached success and can understand how hard it is to get to the top can equip you with the skills and strength you need to get there yourself.
- They take calculated risks. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's an adage we all know, but successful people live by it. They come from a place of "yes" rather than "no." That means starting the business you've been dreaming of for years after getting laid off; that means taking on a new project or collaboration in unchartered territory. When you are willing to take a chance, you often find yourself one step closer to your end goal.
- They laugh at themselves. Successful people don't take themselves too seriously. They find time to laugh - and often at themselves. When you've done all you can do, and you have worked hard, it's time to have some fun. If something goes awry, the successful person bounces back because her or she can find the humor or positive lesson in it.
- They are grateful. It's not about having what you want, but wanting what you have. Successful people take time to reflect on what they have and give back. Getting caught up in constantly wanting more will only lead to the feeling that something is lacking. Have an attitude of gratitude! Oprah is one of the most successful women on earth, and for ten years she has been writing down 5 things a day for which she is thankful. Sometimes when we open our hearts to gratitude, we realize we are already doing well.